Chapt 10: Encountering the Chinese - FACE
Main Concept of Face: how you present yourself to others with certain characteristics and traits
- accusing their ďfaceĒ is really embarrassing because it questions their integrity
- main reason concept of face developed was because itís more of a norm for the Chinese to live in the same community their whole lives, compared to in US where we are a very mobile society, so maintaining healthy relationships and avoiding conflict is very important.
- For us, if a place doesnít suit us or we encounter some major conflict, we just leave. For them, they donít really see that as an option.
Appropriate ways to behave:
-Donít expect a Chinese will act contrary to group norms
-Donít insist that your hosts to respect your rights/opinions
-Donít show anger, avoid confrontation
-If you must say no, try to do so as tactfully as possible
If YOU cause face-loss situation:
-Ask a trusted Chinese friend about what you should have done if you donít know
-apologize in private
-be extra considerate of the person you offended in the future
-Sometimes they deal with minor face-loss situations by pretending it didnít happen, so you can go along with that